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Sunday, 12 November 2017

Marriage: What Are Your Fears? How Do You Deal With Them?

Marriage: What Are Your Fears? How Do You Deal With Them?

Marriage: What Are Your Fears? How Do You Deal With Them?

 Sometimes it seems as though all marriages are doomed to fail. Every where you turn, people are talking about the difficult marriages around them. If we are not talking about husbands who are physically or emotionally abusing their wives, we are talking about husbands who cheating on their wives. At other times, we talk about women who intimidate their husbands because they are earning more money than their husbands. Hearing these stories makes the young men and ladies approach marriage with palpitaions in their heart. They don't want to make a mistake and end up as one the many stories about failed marraiges. With divorce rates going higher with the passage of time, tying the knot might seem more intimidating than ever. However, for every marriage that is crisis or has failed, there is another one that is thriving and bringing joy to the couple. There must be something that these couples who are forging ahead know. Perhaps the way forward is to put aside your fears and discover what these couples know. By understanding what marriage entails and clarifying your expectations, you can overcome your fears about marriage, make an informed decision on whether or not to get married. If you do choose to get married, you will be better equipped to succeed.

1. What exactly you are scared of? Most people don't fear marriage itself but rather, its implications and its potential failure. What are you worried will change? What's the worst possible scenario that's paralyzing your views on marriage?

 2. Address your fears. If your parents had a bad marriage, understand that every marriage is different, and just because theirs wasn't healthy doesn't mean yours can't be. If you're worried about the marriage falling apart, make a list in your mind of what you can and will do to make the marriage work. Imagine all the scenarios that make you scared and then, imagine what you will do in that specific situation to make it better. It can also help to re-evaluate your failed relationships. How or where did they go wrong? Talk with your significant other about their past relationships and try to determine why those did not work out. By understanding what went wrong in the past can help you avoid the same issues this time around.

 3. Talk it over. Ask anybody you know of in a successful marriage to tell you their secrets. Usually it's something like, "We overlook each other's minor bad habits." But most of all, express your concerns to your partner. This is the perfect opportunity to exercise the communication skills that are essential for any healthy relationship to last, and your partner should be understanding and helpful.

 4. Decide whether you have chosen the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Or, have they chosen you and you're now being pressured into marriage? It might not be marriage itself that you fear, but marriage to this person. A good nugget of wisdom to remember is that you shouldn't marry the person you know you can live with for the rest of your life; marry the one whom you can't imagine yourself living without.

 5. Realize that you are not going to live in harmony every second of every day you are married. You are not perfect, and neither is your partner, married or not. If you're waiting to be with someone with whom every day is rainbows and sunshine, you'll never settle down or get married because no one will ever be able to live up to that illusion. Marriage is hard work and it takes your whole life to complete it. Too many people get married with the expectation that if things start to get tough, they'll just file for divorce and start all over again. Be prepared for the bumps in the road, and don't be surprised when you come across them.

 6. Plan your life. Sit down and iron things out before you get married. Will you have children? How many? Who will manage the money? Will both spouses work? How much will you save for retirement? Where will you live? Who gets which responsibility? If the husband can still go out to bars with his buddies, can the wife still do the same? These are the difficult yet practical questions to ask before you commit yourself to somebody for the rest of your life. Don't discover the answers the hard way, when there's already a ring on your finger. It's better to foresee conflict and prevent it. If you have a healthy relationship, the questioning process will bring you closer. Common issues that drive married couples apart are money, religion, and children, in that order. Do your best ahead of time to make sure you're on the same page on these issues, and you'll go a long way to evening the long-term odds. Don't be paralysed by fear. Don't let fear decide your fate. Step out boldly in faith to discover the spouse with who you can make a successfu marriage.
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Monday, 31 July 2017

Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other

Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other

Our intention most times determines the success of our relationship, not what anyone says.

Like we know that it is never possible for two people who are blood related to stay with each other for little period of time without offending each other.

So also, it is paramount that we know that two who are not related by blood nor gender can never be together in the name of love and expect an offense-free relationship.

Personally, i feel when your partner go wrong it makes you know more about them and how to handle them in the future.
I understand there are some offense that are hard to forgive, but love knows no offense as it even forgives before any offense is committed.

I have heard, read and witnessed some extremely bad situations whereby the partners of those involved still overlooked the sin and moved on happily.

One thing i used to tell those who care to listen to the sense making relationship nonsense that i say or write especially when they need to forgive their partner is that it can be anyone's turn, and it can be the other way round the next minute because we are humans and not spirit.

In a relationship, which other offense is greater than seeing your partner whom you have sacrificed all for moaning in confirmation of a great sexual experience under someone else?
For your information, I have seen couples who still moved on together after the above happened.

Believe me, it is never easy to forgive one's partner after such experience, in fact, many people will tell you to even run as far as possible from such partner.

Most times you take some decisions on your own when it comes to relationship because other are blind when it comes to what you see in your partner as they don't know your desires and the point of attraction.

This is not about the sacrifice or desperate measures you've taken to sustain the relationship, but the love making you to be as foolish enough to see reasons why you must forgive your partner.

This post is not just about cheating, it can be anything else apart from cheating.

The fact is that offense and forgiveness is what makes many relationship or marriage to be as strong as they are.

Remember, you are not a perfect man, neither is she a better woman, we are all striving to be the best to our partner.
And as your partner is trying all to be better for just you, you need to be ready to give room for mistakes.

I don't want to give some of the examples I have witnessed so as not to look as if I am on the side of one gender, because to me we are all the same, what is good for one goose is good for another goose.

As I am preaching forgiveness, it should make us to try harder at achieving great union free of scandal and divorce which is rampant this days.

This should make those that cheat see reasons why they must stop as it harms the partner emotionally.

Those that abuse their partner physically and mentally should also stop as the pain inflicted on your partner is more than your understanding, don't take the spirit of forgiveness which accompanied the love for granted.

In case you don't know; the day your partner stops forgiving you is when they stop loving you.

Don't abuse the spirit of forgiveness, don't do it to the point that your partner will see nothing attractive in you anymore.

Love is blind they say, you may not be the one to share the experience when the blindness receives healing.


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Monday, 24 July 2017

These are they 5 things that are killing your Relationship

These are they 5 things that are killing your Relationship
These are they 5 things that are killing your Relationship 

Relationships aren’t supposed to be selfish, while considering yourself it is important and only fair that you take a step back and also consider your partner – consider how you might be hurting your partner and things you might be doing to turn your partner off. Jumia Travel shares 5 things you do that hurt your partner and kill your relationship in the process.

Living Outside What the Two of You Can Afford

It is important to live within what the two of you can afford. Once you’ve decided to be in a relationship with someone, you have to learn to respect what the person is earning per time and adjust your expenses to align with it. Avoid belittling and insulting your partner for the inability to meet your expenses, rather learn to love and appreciate while adjusting your expenses to align, or work hard, alongside your partner, to increase earnings to be able to accommodate these expenses.

Constant Negativity

In relationships, you should learn to choose your battles. Even if your partner is doing something wrong, it’s not every wrong thing that you comment on, complain about or intend to change. Choose your battles. There are somethings you should just let go off completely or let go off in the mean-time to address later. You have to be wise about it. Negativity is draining and constant complaints are irritating, therefore it is important to learn to encourage, celebrate and appreciate your partner more.

Putting Everything Else First

Everyone likes to feel special and when in a relationship, it should be a priority to make your partner feel special as often and as much as you can. Your partner should always be your first priority. Even if you have to deal with something else before your partner, be courteous and let your partner know either before or after you’ve taken care of whatever it is. Remember, no one likes to feel unimportant, including you.

Forcing Your Partner to Conform To Your Ideals

Remember, your partner is not your doppelganger. As much as you two might have a lot in common, you can’t have everything in common. Therefore, there are certain things you will allow your partner do or believe out of respect for who they are, to make them feel comfortable and to make them feel loved. It might not make you feel comfortable at all, but if it matters to them or they are unable to change it (no matter how hard they have tried), you don’t force them, you learn to accept and accommodate them that way.

Being Unkind

Be kind to your partner in your words, in your thoughts, in your actions and in your deeds. Be kind. Always ask yourself before you do or say something to your partner, ‘Is this kind?’, ‘Can he or she bear this without falling apart?’. Kindness is simply the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. Remember to be kind.
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Thursday, 20 July 2017

15 signs that would prove if you're ready for love or not

15 signs that would prove if you're ready for love or not
15 signs that would prove if you're ready for love or not

Everyday men and women enter into relationships and marriages HOPING for the best only to be astonished when they realize that the person responsible for ruining their marriage or sabotaging their relationship was the man or woman in the mirror. They were unprepared for love… but they had no idea. Are you ready for love? Find out by taking this critically appraised self-examination.
Examine Yourself…
When it comes to love, sex, relationships and marriage, most men and women take the position, “Ready or not, here I come!”. They will dive into a relationship or marriage with little or absolutely no preparation. At best they are drawing straws. At worst they are rolling the dice. The statistics prove that the majority of men and women who gamble at love will eventually lose. Don’t wager with your love life.
In II Corinthians 13:5, we are commanded to examine ourselves. This self-examination is crucial if you intend on finding and experiencing True Love. This examination entails 15 key tests to help you and a potential mate determine if you are actually ready for love. The test starts now!
1. DO YOU KNOW WHAT TRUE LOVE IS?
“I love you!” “I love you too!” Most people who express those heartfelt words have no idea what True Love is neither the responsibility that goes along with it. I regularly meet men and women who claim they have been in love three or more times in their life. They met someone, fell in love, broke up with them and repeated that sequence of events with numerous lovers. One woman told me she had been in love with eight different men. She married and divorced four of them. Truthfully, True Love never ends. If what they had were True Love, it wouldn’t have ended. They’d still be together, (See I Corinthians 13). How does one define True Love and who sets the standard? God defines what True Love is and He alone sets the standard for love. It is only through His Word can we learn what True Love is. If you obtained your definition or interpretation about love from any source, you have been misled, (See I Thessalonians 4:9).
2. ARE YOU ABLE TO FORGIVE?
You are not ready to be in a relationship until you are able to forgive those who have offended or hurt you. If you are the type of person who can hold a grudge or harbor resentment or hard feelings, pull yourself off the market! You are a danger to yourself and to your potential mate, (See Mark 11:24-26 and Matthew 18:21-22).
3. HAVE YOU EXAMINED YOUR FLESH?
I frequently meet men and women who were sexually active in times past, dreadfully, many of them contracted sexually transmitted diseases. But because they were classified by medical science as being asymptomatic, (which means they had no symptoms) they had no idea of their alarming dilemma. I could share countless heart-gripping horror stories of husbands and wives who ended up infecting their spouses with…
• HIV/AIDS
• (HPV) Human Papilloma Virus
• Gonorrhea
• Hepatitis B
• Herpes Simplex Virus
• Chlamydia
• Syphilis
• Trichomoniasis
If you were sexually active in the past and have not taken a battery of tests for sexually transmitted diseases, pull yourself off the market. Even if you have no symptoms to speak and even if you practiced safe sex, GET TESTED! If you fail or refuse to do so, you are guilty of jeopardizing the physical safety of another human being. God forbid, but what if you did contract the HIV/AIDS virus, Chlamydia or HPV but are symptomatic?
4. HAVE YOU LEARNED THE ART OF COMMUNICATION?
We are literally inundated with books, DVDs, CDs, therapists and marriage counselors attempting to help troubled couples learn how to talk to each other. An art they should have learned prior to saying, “I do!” Here’s what they didn’t learn before exchanging wedding vows, but you must:
• Proper listening skills
• How to respect another person’s opinion or point of view
• Talking and communicating non argumentatively
• Admitting when you are wrong
• Saying, “I’m sorry,” when the moment requires
• How to disagree honorably
• How to speak the truth in love
• When to remain silent
• How to diffuse tense moments
5. DO YOU RESPECT THE DIFFERENCES OF THE SEXES?
This should be a no-brainer! However, many men and women enter into relationships and marriages with no concept that male and females are different species. They either fail or refuse to honor our (male – female) uniqueness. If you only see things from a man’s perspective or from a woman’s point of view, you are not at all ready for love. And you won’t be ready until the day comes when you can respect the differences of the opposite sex without grumbling, bickering or backbiting.
6. ARE YOU HABOURING ILL FEELING TOWARD THE OPPOSITE SEX?
I once had a woman fire a verbal barrage of indignant words at me after I advised her to pull herself off the market. She had been molested as a child and blamed the entire male gender for her traumatic experience. In spite of her openly detestable view of all men, she insisted on seeking a husband. Being that she is an attractive woman, she will no doubt find a man who doesn’t comprehend the magnitude of her bitterness. The divorce courts have a constant stream of couples who split for no other reason than one of them held on to deep-rooted animosity against the opposite sex. If you are harboring ill feelings toward the opposite sex, you must resolve your issue(s) before dating, courting or entering into a marriage covenant. By not doing so, you make yourself become the prime ingredient in a recipe for marital failure. Like mishandled sulphuric acid, your ill feelings will eventually spill over and burn your spouse, (See Hebrews 12:15).
7. DO YOU HAVE A TEMPER?
If you are prone to temper tantrums, explosive bursts of anger or harmful emotional outbursts, please pull yourself off the market! Make no mistake about it; you are not ready for love! Your disposition will surely be your courting or marital demise, (See Proverbs 22:24-25 and Proverbs 29:22).
8. DO YOU HAVE SOUL TIE?
A soul tie is when you have feelings for an ex boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, fantasy lover or past sex partner. If you long for a person, secretly wish you were with them, fantasize or daydream about them, or think about them sexually, pull yourself off the market! You are not ready to be in love with another person until you sever that soul tie, (See II Corinthians 10:5).
9. DO YOU HAVE ANY UNRESOLVED ISSUES?
Issue such as…
• Unforgiveness
• Drug/Alcohol Addictions
• Secret Sins
• Child Support
• Criminal Issues
• Pornography Addictions
• Paternity Fraud
• Psychological Issues
• Baby’s Momma Drama
• Divorce issues
• Jealousy Issues
• Current Relationship Issues
• Control issues
• Abuse Issues
• Manipulation Issues
If so, pull yourself off the market until you get them resolved. Unresolved issues almost always come back to haunt you. (Read Col. 3:5)
10. DO YOU HAVE UNREALISTIC MARITAL EXPECTATIONS?
More spouses have ended up in the divorce court because they held on to unrealistic expectations before they married. For example, he expected they were going to have sex everyday, two and three times a day. Or, she expected that her husband was going to worship the ground she walked on and treat her like she was the Queen of Sheba and Prince and Princess of Monaco.
When things don’t turn out as they dreamed or fantasized, these people become disappointed and eventually abandon, defraud or divorce their spouses. The way to insure that you don’t have unrealistic expectations is to talk to happily married couples. Ones who have been married for ten years or more. Find out from them the ebb and flow and various nuances of the married life. No offense, but you cannot obtain this vital information from single people, disgruntled couples or from bitter divorces.
11. DO YOU HAVE A STRONG SPIRITUAL FOUNDATIONS?
Every marriage will face challenges, but the ones that stand the test of time are the ones in which both spouses are rooted and grounded in the Word of God and prayer, (See Luke 6:47-49). If your spiritual foundation is unstable, put the brakes on love and get your footing firmly established.
12. CAN YOU RECOGNIZE THE NUMEROUSE PRE-MARITAL PITFALLS AND LOVE, SEX AND RELATIONSH
If not, you must pull yourself off the market immediately! There are too many snares for you to take a chance and hope that things work out for the best, (See II Timothy 2:26). Pervasive snares such domestic violence, sexually transmitted diseases, paternity fraud, dating abuse, marital fraud, stalking and spousal murder. Don’t take the path traveled by most men and women, which is to stick their heads in the sand and act is if these things don’t exist. Or the other worn out path, which is the false belief that if you attend church you are immune to these things.
One of the prime reasons divorce and domestic violence is so prevalent in the church is because most Christians have received improper or no training at all in these critical areas. They knew nothing about the snares, booby traps and pitfalls until it was too late! Can you recognize when a potential mate is wearing a mask? Can you identify the various sex traps? Are you able to discern when someone is attempting to lure you into an abusive relationship?
Are you able to identify paternity fraud predators or females shopping for disposable dads? If you cannot, you are not properly trained to reign in the area of love, sex, relationships or marriage.
13. DO YOU UNDERSTAND AND HONOUR THE MARRIAGE COVENANT?
In a society rift with divorce and children born to single mothers, many men and women have a distorted view of the marriage covenant. Before you proceed with love, getting an understanding of the marriage covenant is a must for both you and any potential spouse. The best place to acquire this vital information is in pre-marital training.
14. HAVE YOU TAKEN ANY PRE-MARITAL TRAINING?
This is a critical step to having a successful and vibrant a marriage. People who skip or reject this training process are not serious about having a love that lasts. At minimum, here are the areas that must be covered:
• Understanding what True love is
• Understanding and honoring the marriage covenant
• Communications 101
• Conflict resolutions 101
• Understand a man’s needs
• Understanding a woman’s needs
• The dangers of being unequally yoked
• The duties of the husband
• The duties of the wife
• Recognizing love, sex and relationship booby traps
• Recognizing pre-marital pitfalls.
15. ARE YOU WILLING TO PARTICIPATE IN PRE MARITAL COUNSELLING?
A person who is not willing to engage in pre-marital counseling with a potential spouse is literally a walking time bomb. Their unwillingness or refusal clearly reveals that they have rejected the Written Word of God, (See Proverbs 1:20-33 and Proverbs 15:12,22). That makes them a dangerous person. Never proceed with marriage plans with a person who is unwilling to participate in pre-marital counseling. Never! Whew, you can take a much needed breather! The self-examination is finally over, how did you fare? Are you ready for love? Or, do you need to make some adjustments first before proceeding forward?
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10 Relationship Commandments for Women

10 Relationship Commandments for Women
10 Relationship Commandments for Women

1. Don't be in a hurry to move out
of your parents house.
2. Don't wait for a man before you
start living. You can live a fulfilled
life as a single woman.
3. Stay away from alcohol. It has
killed others and you are not
special.
4. Don't entertain a wrong
number call, especially at night. Its
not the right way to find a lover.
5. Develop a healthy eating habit.
Always take breakfast and avoid
sweets.
6. Dress well: Impression count.
People will judge you by the way
you dress even before they talk to
you.
7. Don't use sex as proof of love.
Sex is no proof of love, he'll leave
you after the sex.
8. Don't marry for the money, else
you'll become one of his
possessions.
9. Add value to yourself- get a
career. Don't be fooled that a man
will solve all your problems.
10. Beauty is not everything. If it is
all you have, you'll lose your place
to someone beautiful, better more
matured and competent than
you..
AGREE OR DISAGREE?

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18+ Story : The Perfect Couple

18 + : the perfect couple 1
The Perfect Couple 1
The Perfect Couple


Nick stood in his balcony and continued to watch his new neigbours as they gently packed their belongings into their new home. They were an interesting pair to watch and so Nick had continued to observe them for more than thirty minutes.

From his observation, Nike could tell they were newly wedded, a least not older than six months, and he could also note that they were gentle and generally carful about life. He also felt they were a born-again duo. The last thought amused him as he reflected into his own kind of person. Nick was nowhere near being Godly. He had broken every law in the bible and was sure his name had been long erased from the book of life. He couldn’t tell if the couple was in love with each other; all he could detect was that they had mutual respect for each other. What is my business, he thought. He’d better get inside and prepare for Boma, the new girl in his life.

He quickly took his eyes of the busy couple and looked towards the street. Green Rich estate was quiet as usual and the atmosphere this evening was cool and airy. Boma would be visiting his home for the first time and he looked forward to having her around. Somehow, Nick felt that his newly found relationship with Boma would be an experience he would never forget. There was something different about her that made him feel this way. The first time he had met her was in a public bus and she had dared him to kiss her just minutes after he opened conversation with her. She was pretty and neat. And the way she had said it had set his heart beat racing. She was mischievous; something he had seen right after he had kissed her. She had smiled in a devilish way and he instantly became crazy about her. Then she had done something during their first date that had made him never forget her for the past five days. She had worn a black short gown for the date looking as hot as temptation. She had the shape that could make a male dog get a hard on. Her firm middle sized breast was working real hard to shoot out of their cage and her butt shot out her back like it was artificial. The short dress allowed her light complexioned fleshy thighs to be well revealed and again, her presence got his heart beat racing. She was a bad girl and he wasn’t sure he would be able to keep up with her. Yet, just thought of her brought all the demon in him alive.

During the date, which was in a restaurant that had about 11 customers at the time, she had systematically taken off her black pant right there on her seat with everyone around and handed it to him, “I will come to your house to take it whenever I come visiting. I will not wear any when I am coming, so don’t misplace it.” This act had gotten his head spinning and right now, he couldn’t wait to see her. Nick looked at his time piece for the ninth time and decided to stop starring at the couples and go and have his evening shower. It was a Saturday evening and he had spent the better part of the morning doing some office work; now was time for play. Nick was a twenty nine years old graduate of Economics who worked in a bank. He had, since he started working two years ago, met and slept with different types of girl; short, tall, rich poor, but had never met anyone as crazy Boma.

Nick was just a little above average in height with a broad shoulder and an athletic figure. He was a jovial fellow with enough swag that had attracted him to so many females. He was also good at his work and got along with many of his colleagues. Despite his obvious love for women, he avoided flirting or dating any of his female colleagues. He also didn’t allow his social life affect his job and so knew when not to step beyond he set boundaries.

Also, he never dated married women. They were a ‘no go area’ for him and that was why he didn’t even notice if his new neighbor’s wife was pretty or not.  He left the balcony and quickly entered into the house; it was a well furnished two bedroom flat that was decorated to suite the life style of a bachelor.  Nick wasn’t even thinking of marriage in the nearest future.

He got into the bathroom, quickly had his shower and had barely came out of the bathroom when his mobile phone rang. He quickly rushed to answer it, almost very certain that the caller was Boma. His heart beat began to race again just as he saw the caller ID, “hello Boma,” he answered the call, trying to hide his excitement.  “I am in your estate; please can you remind me how to locate your house again?” the soft female voice asked. It was totally unlike the female personality that had it. “Just tell the cab to bring you to number fourteen B close.”

“Alright,” she said and cut the call.

Ten minutes later, she was knocking on his door. Nick opened the door to face pretty Boma, dressed in a dark blue blouse with a black mini skirt underneath.  This time around, his heart stopped racing.  “Come in,” he instructed and the angel gently walked in, looking all over her surrounding in obvious admiration. “Mmm, you have got a beautiful home,” she said.  “Thank you,” he replied. “You are welcome.”

She looked at him. “You have new neigbours and the wife is pretty.”
“Is she? I didn’t notice.” Now he didn’t know what she was up to with such topic, “Feel at home. What will you like to take?” he asked, trying to sound all friendly.
“I am okay.” She sat down on one of the yellow and blue seats. There was a mischievous smile on her face. She didn’t make any effort to cover up her legs as she sat down.
He could see everything from where he stood and he began to perspirate.
She knew what she was doing, “I don’t have my panties underneath, I hope you have it?” It was a seductive voice. She obviously didn’t come here to play around. She came for action.
“Ye… yes, I have it,” he responded. Sounding more like a teenager.
She smiled confidently, “or will you like to find out if I really got anything under?”


Perhaps this girl was crazy, Nick thought. She had barely stayed up to five minutes and was already trying to seduce him. Yet he still felt excited and the bulge in his trouser began to increase. It was a different kind of feeling, something out of this world and he just couldn’t wait to devour her.
“Come closer, come and check.” She gently said.
He didn’t know what to say, but his legs began to carry him towards her like a zombie.
She remained sitting and he knelt down in front of her once he got to her.
She raised her hand up, signifying that he was free to check her up.

Nick loved everything that was happening; he slid his right hand into her black skirt and felt her bare butt skin. It was soft. She raised herself up a little and allowed him to have access to her whole underneath and he could also feel her wetness. This energized the animal in him and he quickly pulled off all her cloths and she hurriedly did the same for him. Within seconds they were caressing and kissing each other all over right there in the sitting room. Her moans were exhilarating, and he wished she could continue forever. He liked the feel of her firm mango shaped breast and he didn’t hesitate to hungrily lick them with his tongue as well as caress them with his hands. While she moaned, she grabbed his right hand and led it to her dripping wet private part as she grabbed his joystick and caressed it to. Suddenly she squat down and bean to lick the stick like flesh.

His head began to swirl in response to her touch and he quickly pulled her up, turned her round, made her kneel on the sofa and entered into her from behind.

Boma’s moan was different as the whole of him buried itself into her. Nick actually thought that the new neighbors could hear her, but he didn’t care and he also didn’t want her to lower her voice. The sound actually made the moment more pleasurable. Boma’s wild response to his constant pounding made every moment special, it made every minute memorable and Nick knew instantly that his sex life had risen to a new level.  He continued humping her until his body couldn’t take it anymore; he reach climax and the height, he knew, was way higher than any climax he had reached in his life.  A minute later he fell on the sofa, breathing like he had ran round the estate.  Boma sat close to him and leaned on his chest with a satisfactory smile on her face. “That was great,” She said and quietness followed while they both tried to catch their breath.

A minute later, she stood up and walked Unclad towards his kitchen, “I need to take some water,” she said. While his eyes were fixed on her lovely behind, he said, “The fridge is right there in kitchen, help yourself.” He couldn’t take his eyes off her until she disappeared into the kitchen. He instantly looked forward to having another piece of her.

In the kitchen, Boma got herself a glass of water and relaxed on the kitchen sink to drink it while she continued to admire the cleanliness of the cooking room. Then she looked out of the window noticed that the neighbour’s backyard was very visible. She could clearly see the neighbour’s kitchen window and it was obvious that anyone in the neighbor’s kitchen would also clearly see her if she comes out of the back balcony from the kitchen. It was the closest house from that side of the building and both flats shared a common backyard with just a short fence dividing it.

Then she heard sounds from the other kitchen and wondered who was there. perhaps it was the pretty gentle woman’s husband, she thought. She didn’t think the gentle man had ever seen a body as perfect as hers.  With the cup in her hands, she slowly opened the kitchen exit door and stepped outside, stack Unclad. She could feel two eyes staring at her from the neighbor’s kitchen. She was sure of this because the sound had stopped and she could see a human form standing by the window. Then she heard the sound continue again; she gently walked back into the kitchen and straight to the sitting room where Nick sat. He looked up expectedly at her and she thought he looked ready to take on her the second time.
Gently she walked up to him, sat on his laps while facing him. Nick could see her wide open womanliness staring at him. She drew herself closer and began to kiss him while he instantly began to lustfully caress her smooth body, It was going to be a long evening and Nick was glad.
“…father Lord in heaven; please bless this food we ask through Christ our Lord.”

“Amen,” Ruth murmured in response to her husband’s prayer.

They were about to have their breakfast that Sunday morning but there was an obvious, embarrassing tension in the air.

Mr. Paul Attah easily noticed something wrong in the way his wife had responded to his prayer. She was still unhappy about what happened yesterday, barely a few hours into parking into this new neighborhood.

She had been excited about living in this house and had insisted they use this weekend to ensure they started their new life here.

Paul had married Ruth five months ago and they had since been living in a one room apartment where he had been living before they tied the holy knot.

Her Christian upbringing had taught her that the most important virtue of a Godly woman was patience and content. And both had always believed that in no time God would get them a better apartment.

Paul had always planned and wished to make his wife comfortable and so had secretly been saving for a bigger house. She was a good woman, one he had met a virgin and felt she deserved the best life could offer. Paul believed that Ruth was a special gift to him from God whom he had been very faithful to in worship and holiness. Ruth was not just respectful, homely and Godly; she was also a very beautiful woman. And meeting her a virgin was the height of his excitement.

Paul, even though a strong Christian for the past twelve years, had never considered male virginity to be of any importance in a relationship. He had been sexually active in his late teens before he repented and had a few flings in his baby Christian days. But for the past seven years he had sacrificed his body to Christ and kept his body holy, keeping away from sexual immorality. It was not easy especially as a bachelor, a handsome thirty years old bachelor for that matter.

Sex was wrong in the sight of God and the bible instructed that one should flee from it. The immoral act was a gateway for demons to find their way into one’s body; it also causes one to lose his spiritual identity.

So Paul had trained himself to let go of immoral thoughts and with the help of the Holy Spirit, living a perfect holy life became very easy. Then when he was spiritually and psychologically ready to marry, he asked God for a good wife and the Lord once again was faithful to him.

Paul worked with an insurance firm and his salary was not huge, but he always had faith that God would always see him through difficult times. His life style made it easy for him to save and this was why he was able to afford their new apartment.

Ruth was a HND holder and was, at the moment looking for job. The man of God in their church had prophesied that their marriage will be blessed with money and children. This was three months ago and they were still waiting on the Lord to have his way in their lives, Ruth was yet to get pregnant, but the couple were not perturbed about this state of affair. At the Lord’s time he would make her pregnant.

He had disvirgined her on the eve of their wedding, a night she would never forget. It was the first night she ever saw a man standing Unclad in front of her and also had felt great shame being Unclad in front of him too. It was not as easy as she had thought it would be and this had made her wonder why all those bad girls in her school and neigbourhood had lived through having sex with different men like it meant nothing.

Only having her husband get a glimpse of her bare breast had been tug of war. Ruth could say she had been a bornagain Christian all her life. Of course there were few moments of anger, gossip, selfishness and sinful thoughts but her weakness had never gone beyond that. She had always seen her body as a holy vessel for the lord and had never given sexual immorality a second thought in her life. Her body was of Christ and she was determined to give it only to her husband.

She knew she was pretty. Her slim straight feminine body with full sized breast, smooth face and cute ass had always attracted the male folks. But she had made herself unapproachable; they dared not walk up to her to tell her sweet nonsense. Didn’t they know her body was the temple of Christ?


And so when she found her husband staring at her breast, it was strange and uncomfortable. But she had loved the touch. The feeling had been heavingly. He had sent electric waves all over her body and her brain had almost shattered with pleasure. She had loved the way he touched her and kissed her deeply. He had used his tongue all over her body and concentrated more on her breast, it was a wonderful feeling. The feel of his hand all over her bare buttock was simply sweet and when he had caressed the lips of her virgina, cause her femalecore to swell, she had come to a conclusion that sex was a bit of heaven on earth. The wetness all over her virgina had contributed in making his touch more pleasurable. Then he disvirgined her and despite the initial pain, she loved it. She loved having sex with her husband.

This was her private feeling, the thought that only her could know of. This thought was accompanied by fear. She was afraid that she was loving sex more than God. But her actions or desires were justified by the fact that sex in her matrimonial home was good. This was why she wanted to have more of Paul every day. Unfortunately, Paul’s sexual life was modest. He really was working hard not to make it a habit. To him, sex, despite how pleasurable the act was, was a secondary issue when compared with ensuring one lived a holy life. Besides, at times of fasting and praying, which were part of his everyday life, one needed not think about sex, even with the wife.

He was right as far as she was concerned and so she always prayed to the lord to help her suppress her desire and love for sex. She was doing well so far. Yes, sometimes the desire could be so strong but she would just pick up her bible and study the word of God and only enjoyed the act when her husband wanted to.

She had never had any other kind of sexual experience apart from what she had had with her husband; just the normal caressing, kissing, ensuring she got wet while he joystick charges and then a normal pleasurable missionary style. She didn’t think she was missing anything, even though she was not sure.

Okay, perhaps she always wished he could last longer, but she came to believe that that was how sex was experienced even with all men.

But she was very surprised to find her husband staring at the Unclad girl yesterday evening. In fact, she had been disappointed in him. He wasn’t supposed to stare, he was supposed to flee; take his eyes of the Unclad devil. What kind of human was she anyway? Ruth has seen her when she came visiting the male bachelor who had nothing to do but to stare at them all day.

Why was her husband staring? What he did was as good at committing sexual immorality in the eyes of God. She didn’t know how to handle the situation. It was embarrassing as well as hurtful. How could her husband be staring at the unclothedness of another woman. She had thought about this all through the night and it had weighed her emotions down this morning.

He had quickly continued with what he was doing once she had come in and caught him staring. He had seemed so carried away and that was why she had looked towards his direction of interest.

Now she couldn’t even look him in the face. How could a child of God be lost in the lust of another woman?

She felt pained, yet she knew, as a Christian, that she should forgive him and give him the opportunity to repent for his sins.

The tension throughout breakfast was awkward. This wasn’t the way the almost perfect couple wanted to spend their first night and morning in their new home.

Paul, on the other hand, knew that what he did was wrong and he had spent a better part of the night asking the Lord for forgiveness. Yet the image of the Unclad girl couldn’t just get out of his mind. The weight of guilt made him really depressed.

She was simply hot, like something from out of this world. Did he think she had a better body than his wife? No! He shouldn’t be thinking this way. He should ask the Lord for help; he must take her off his mind at all cost.

The firm breasts were worth watching; there was a way she had walked across balcony that had made him imagine what she was like in bed. Wow! It’s been long he saw a different kind of ass apart from his wife’s. He was already used to seeing Ruth’s beautiful ass. Had is lost the attraction it had when she was a virgin? He had thought she would always remain as new as he had met her. Why did he even think that that LovePeddler’s body was fresher than Ruth’s? Why did he even stare at it? He couldn’t just tell what it was he saw in that shameless girl that tingled something in him. She had a different style in the way she walked and held her shoulders. Ruth didn’t have style. Ruth was just Ruth and nothing more.

Their love making was just modest. Both were ashamed to dwell on the pleasure in it for too long. Ruth hardly moans out loud because she probably thought it was sinful. He also thought it should be so. What is pleasurable in this world anyway? What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul? He loved his wife and that was all that mattered and he was going to use that whole day in church to ask the Lord forgiveness.
It was almost lunch time, Tuesday afternoon and Nick was meant to call Boma; she had made him promised to call her this afternoon just before she left him yesterday. Boma was making him to do a lot of strange things since he met her and the crazy thing was he was enjoying it all.

Boma had spent Saturday night in home. It had been a wild night and she had proven to be a good cook too. She was just fun to be with and he had enjoyed every bit of moment with her. Her presence had made the weekend short and interesting, almost causing depression to weigh him down when she was leaving on Sunday evening. Therefore he had quickly accepted to come to her office during lunch on Monday.

Curiosity had also made him want to keep to the promise of visiting her at her office. He really wanted to see for himself what this crazy lady would look like in office attire and how she would behave in an office setting.

She had told him that she was a customer service personnel in one of the leading telecommunication companies in the country. He also couldn’t help but wonder how many of her co workers she must have slept with.

But what he saw on Monday morning came as a shocker. Boma was a completely different person when he met with her at the office. She was neatly and modestly dressed in a black skirt and white blouse. Of course it wasn’t a short skirt. The only familiar thing about her was how beautiful she looked.

The way she carried herself was completely different. How could anyone believe that this was the same girl that almost screamed down his house with her Intimate moans of sexual pleasure? This was the same girl that had allowed him to make love to her all through the night in the most crazy and almost impossible sex positions. He had had sex with her in every corner of the house; the bathroom, kitchen, corridor, sitting room, bedroom and even in balcony. The girl was full of energy, always wanting more and her sound echoed through the walls of the house. It was the best night he ever had.

He was sure she was the company’s hole. Every male here must have had a taste of her, he believed.

But instead, he had seen a calm and responsible looking Boma. She had smiled like a ‘good’ girl when she saw him and had quickly gotten up from her post to meet him.

“I am so glad to see you,” she had said and these words surprisingly made him feel good. No one looked at him in a ‘knowing way’. He had expected weird stares from the male folks; the kind of stare that would say, ‘what in the world are you doing coming to check on this LovePeddler?’ All she had noticed was men looking at her with admiration and respect. She was liked around here, he could obviously see.

“Please can we go to the guest room?” she had politely said to him and led the way.
She greeted everyone with a strange politeness that amazed him and they treated her the same way.
“I will be running back to the office soonest; my lunch break is almost up.” He said, just as he sat down on the black leather seat in the guest room. It was a small neat room with a medium sized flat screen on the left wall and a thick Arabian rug on beautiful black and ash tiles.
“It’s alright, I am really glad you could make out time to come and see me.” she said, looking straight into his eyes and making him Hot once again.

He just nodded his head. Looking at her, he wasn’t sure if she was still a stranger in his life or if was someone he could say he was really familiar with. He just knew he wanted to know more about her. He wanted to unravel the mystery behind this beauty wild chick. “So, how many guys here have you slept with?” The words came out of his lips and he almost threw his palms to his mouth to push them back. He had to give himself a mental knock, wondering why he had asked such a silly question. “ahh… I am sorry.” He quickly said, feeling foolish.

But she was only smiling. “None… I have slept with no one in my office. When I am at work I just concentrate on my work; I don’t know how I do it but this environment has a way of suppressing the urge for sex.” She casually said, looking prettier with that friendly professional look. She was actually making him feel like a client. Not like a prostitute-client kind of client, he quickly told himself.

“Do not apologize, I don’t get angry over such little things, it’s a waste of time. I only concentrate on things that make me happy.” She added.
“I see,” he boldly replied, encouraged by her calm and friendly look. “So how’s the day going?”
“Fine, you know how Mondays usually are.”
They talked a little and it was time to go, “Well, it’s nice seeing you,” he had actually looked forward to see her while on the way down here. It was really nice seeing her.
“I will come to your office by lunch tomorrow.” She said as he made to stand up.
“That will be nice,” he replied. Was she just going to come and sit down just to chit chat with him like they did today? He thought. Well, as boring as that sounded, he actually looked forward to it.
Right now, he was supposed to call her just to find out if she would make it. There was this urge within him that made him want to behold her.
His cell phone instantly rang and he picked it after seeing she was the caller.
“I am just about to enter your bank, please be where I will find you.” she quickly said.
“Alright, he replied, and instantly felt his joystick react to the sound of her voice.
She walked in and their eyes met, but she just walked to the customer seat and sat down. Her dressing was almost the same as yesterday. A black skirt and a white blouse, but sown in different styles.

He walked up to her.

“Hi, guess who I saw today,” she looked excited about who ever she saw today. “Emm, president of Nigeria?” Nick answered without thinking.

She stopped to smile at his obvious joke, “your new neighbor came to my office today.” She said, “Once he entered, I instantly knew I had seen him somewhere.”

Nick wondered why the sight of his born-again new neighbor should excite her. This girl never ceased to amaze him. “Okay, I didn’t know you even saw his face.”

“I told you the wife was pretty, remember? She wasn’t the only one I took note of.”
“What did he come to your office to do? To see you?”
Boma scoffed, she quickly decided it was unnecessary to go into details of what happened between her and Paul. It would be her secret for now. So she changed the topic. “What do you want to have for lunch?” she asked.

This didn’t stop Nick from wondering what transpired between her and his new neighbor. “Lunch? I want to…”
“You can have me.” she quickly said.
“Oh… have you?” the statement instantly turned him on right there in the banking hall. This was the same girl that had acted all modest at her office yesterday. The sudden switch made everything about her interesting. And he felt like caressing her right there.

He stopped and looked down at her. She was sitting while he was standing as they interacted. Any unsuspecting customer or co-worker would think they were having a customer-client interaction.

As he looked at her, he could see her full breasts heave up and down like they were daring him to grab them. His imagination began to run wild as her recalled how fleshy, soft and full they actually are. He could hear her moans and feel the softness of her ass. Thoughts of the feel of her Kitty-Cat clouded his mind and he wished he could take her somewhere at the moment and make hot love to her.

“Have you ever heard of a quickie?” her voice was soft and filled with desire. “I want to use the ladies…” she stood up, “lunch time is almost up, I will give you two minutes to join me, if not, I will come out and go straight to my office.” her tone was not commanding, it was demanding.

He watched her walk straight to the passage that led to the ladies, his head about to explode. He loved the way her ass fitted in the skirt allowing the hips to slightly push out of her sides.

He looked around; it seemed no one was observing them. Quickly he dashed towards the convenience with nothing in his mind but the sounds of her sweet moans. The bulge in his trouser was obvious but he knew there was nothing he could do to conceal it except having sex with Boma.

He got to the toilet and stopped in between the two doors that led to the toilet according to one’s gender. Never had he gone through the female door since her started working with the bank. Today, Boma was making him break some rules, she was making him act crazy.


Carefully, he opened the door and sneaked in. It was a small room with three doors that led to the toilets. They stood in space with a half sized mirror and a hand washing sink. There was space enough for them in there.

Once the door opened and she saw it was Nick, she rushed to the door and locked it. Then she turned around and looked at him. “You have five minutes, remember, we might get caught but that’s the fun.”

He didn’t say a word; instead he pulled her closer and began to kiss her. It was a deep wet kiss that took her straight into space. She responded to the kiss and quickly reached for his belt. She was glad he was ready for her.

Nick untucked her blouse, slid his right hand into it and reached for her breasts. The bra she wore didn’t allow him to have a full feel so he pushed it up causing the twin flesh to be free. She moaned at his touch and began to rub fiercely on his already free hardened dick.

He loved the feel of her breast and the way t seemed to respond to his touch; it felt like they were giggling excitedly at his touch. He also loved the way she rubbed his dick.

“Oh, I need you inside me right now.” She whispered. It was a plea, at the same time a command.

He obeyed.

He reached for his already fallen trouser, got out his wallet and pulled out a condom. Quickly, he tore of the pack and put it on, and then he turned her around and positioned her exterior.
In the heat of the moment Nick had forgotten he was in the female toilet.
He rose up her skirt and was faced with her bare ass. Does this girl ever wear her pants? He thought for a moment.
She was all wet and ready to receive him.
“Hurry,” she pleaded.
He really wanted to feel the wetness for some seconds but was also ready to drive his dick into her.
She bent down, holding onto the wall and positioned her ass for him to have an easy behind based penetration.
He entered her and she let out a soft pleasurable moan. The walls of her wet Kitty-Cat contracted and gave him a warm welcome.

He began to pump.
“Don’t you ever stop!” she whispered. “This is lovely, faster… ohhh.”
Nick didn’t wish to stop; he wanted the moment to last forever. He continued to pound her as he found her breasts and squeezed them as he moved in and out of her. Her whole body danced in rhythm to his movement.

But his excitement couldn’t hold on any longer. He was beginning to reach climax and he began to pound faster. He got to climax thirty seconds later and quickly pulled out of her, breathing uncontrollably.

It suddenly downed on him where he really was. What if someone wanted to use the toilet at this moment? What would be their reaction if they found him in her? He just wanted to leave the environment.

“That was nice Nick,” there was a wide smile on her lips. “You better get back to work, I will call you later.”

He just nodded his head and continued to dress up.

When he was through, he made for the door feeling really exhausted. He prayed no one would see him coming out of the female toilet. What really was he thinking following this crazy girl in here? He wondered. But it was fun. It was even beyond

fun, it was simply heavenly.

He reached for the door knob and stopped to look at her. They both smiled as their eyes met, “We will talk later, my lunch time is over.” “Thanks for the lunch,” she said.

He smiled again and opened the door.

One of his female colleagues was standing right in from of the door; she was about to reach for the knob when the door opened.

“Nick?” she said with a surprised look on her face, “What the hell are you doing in the female toilet,”

“Chioma,” he called out her name, “You want to use the toilet… sorry, I made a mistake.” He was acting all guilty.

She gasped in wonder and watched him quickly leave her. She pushed the half opened door in and entered. The presence of a stranger in the small room explained it all.

Boma freshened up and made to leave. She had heard the lady call out Nick’s name and she knew that the lady was Nick’s colleague. The lady had no wedding ring and so Boma thought she could play with her mind a little.

“I just had Nick in her… try it; you will enjoy every bit of the moment. The guy is really good.” She said and walked out.

Chioma was mystified. What mad woman was Nick hanging out with? Did Nick actually have sex with her in here?

Boma walked out of the toilet and headed straight for the exit door. She looked towards Nick’s seat and caught him watching her. She smiled at him and left the bank.
Boma decided she was not going to tell Nick what transpired between her and his new neighbor that afternoon before coming to his office. It was going to be her secret game and she was sure going to have fun doing what she had in mind. This idea to play games with the neighbor didn’t occur to her until she spoke with him and discovered he saw her standing Unclad at the backyard balcony on Saturday evening.

He didn’t have to say it, his reaction said it all.

She had recognized him once he walked into the office hall. She had also noticed that he had walked up to her because she was female and he was somehow attracted to her. There were other customer care agents who weren’t engaged at the moment but he chose to walk up to her. He could be calm and gentle; perhaps a born-again Christian, but he still had the male instinct in him. It’s funny how God created men with this uncontrollable instinct and still expect them to be perfect and monogamous, she thought.

“Good day sir,” she had quickly saluted with a broad professional smile on her lips. She was aware of the effect this smile had on men. “How may I help you?”

“Thank you, I want to inquire about your internet package for offices.”

“Alright sir, I will definitely be able to help you.” quickly, she told him all he needed to know about their internet services.”

He had concentrated on her face as she spoke to him but she couldn’t tell what was going on in his mind. The face had remained straight forward and it enabled him conceal all internal emotions perfectly. Perhaps he was just interested in the business that brought him her and wouldn’t have time to flirt with her. But she wasn’t going to give up. There was something about this man that had aroused Boma’s curiosity. He was good looking but that was not her cause of interest. It was the righteous aura he exhumed as he walked and talked. He looked and acted like a good, if not perfect, man. He looked like he would be a hard knot to untie and it felt like a challenge to her. It was like a difficult sexual adventure; something new that she had not tried before. She was going to untie him and find out if he was really perfect.

“Thank you very much for that detailed information. I will get back to you once we make a decision on which package to go for.” Paul replied.

“I will be looking forward to seeing you sir. Meanwhile you can have this flier with you, it has in it all the information I gave you.” “Aright.” He replied and took the paper from her.

“Why do I feel I have met you before sir?” she asked, just as he was about to leave.

He stopped and concentrated on her once again. “Are you sure? Which church do you attend?”

“I am very sure I didn’t meet you in the church sir. Oh get it… you are my friend’s new neighbor. I recall seeing you pack your belongings into your new home at Rich Green Estate last weekend.”

She was right, he thought, “You must be very observant. Yes I just packed into the estate.”


“I hope you like your new environment. I don’t stay there though; I just came to see a friend.”

“You don’t stay there?” he asked and Boma though she saw a trace of disappointment on his face. But Paul was wondering how she was able to see and take note of him to easily. He wondered which house among the ones in his new neighborhood she had seen and noted him from.

This was her chance to go for the kill, she thought. “Yes, I came to visit the single male bachelor who shared the same view with your back yard. That was the day you were packing in. I remember standing at the back yard balcony, and watching your building.”

And she instantly noticed and intense look on his face. He was remembering something. That was when she knew he saw her. He suddenly looked guilty and uncomfortable.

“I was Unclad…” she said and let the words sink. “I hope nobody saw me from your house,” she apologetically added.

This gave him the courage to speak out. “You were the Unclad girl from the neighbor’s balcony? How could such a pretty responsible looking girl like you act like that? Do you not have respect for God?”

“Excuse me sir,” she politely said, looking all innocent and ignorant, “I am sorry if my unclothedness offended you. It’s not my fault that I don’t meet your expectation all because you have a pretty wife. I didn’t even know that someone was watching me from your house.”

Paul didn’t understand why she was lying. Wasn’t she the one who had brought it up? Was she expecting him to smile at her and tell her well done for coming out of her house Unclad? Yet her last statement had made him remember watching and almost admiring the body. “Of course you should know that you will be seen.”

“And I looked so ugly that it offended you?” she tried to look hurt.

Paul actually thought she was serious, “I didn’t say you were ugly,” he defended and almost took back his words.

“Oh… Thank you.” she smiled. It was her best smile and it was appealing. “Thank you Mr. Paul, I will be looking forward to seeing you again,” she quickly said, once again looking all professional. “Please I will be here in case you want anything… and I mean anything.”
He understood what she meant but didn’t know what to say. He just picked up the flier and walked away. He already swore within himself that he would never come back to the office again.

But even as he walked away, Boma knew he would be back. She was yet to start with him, this was only the beginning.
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To be continued!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wednesday, 19 July 2017

9 truth every lady must admit

9 truth every lady must admit to
9 truth every lady must admit

1. Sex doesn't keep a man, if you like, turn
360% on bed, he will still dump you. Bleach
until you become white, if he doesn't notice
the qualities of a wife in you, he will leave
you.
2. A man who win your love with cash may
not stay forever. Real men doesn't settle
down with fake women who love money.
3. The beauty of a woman can take her to a
Palace but her character will determine how
long she stays in the palace. Beauty attracts
men but character keep them.
4. Material things definitely has its merits
but it cannot alone provide the riches of a
truly meaningful life.
5. Being sexy without a character will not
get you a husband, you will only get a
boyfriend.
6. Sex can bring pleasure but it can never
bring love, sex is a product of love, love is
not a product of sex.
7. Sex can make a man stay with you
overnight but love will make him stay for a
lifetime.
8. There are some things that money just
can't buy like manners, moral and integrity.
9. How you dress will definitely determine
how men will address you.

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Saturday, 15 July 2017

When a woman is truly in love with a man, this happens


When a woman is truly in love with a man, this happens
When a woman is truly in love with a man, this happens
1»When a woman love you, she will do anything possible to be with you.
2»When a woman loves you, she will sacrifice her happiness to make you smile
3»When a woman love you, she will not delay accepting you as a lover, when she have accepted you, she will show you care and give you attention needed in relationship or
marriage.
4»When a woman loves you bro, she will do things that make your friends and you thinks she is
throwing herself on you.Bro! She truly love you so much, don't take her love for granted.
5»When a woman love a man, she will call the guy on phone more than the guy calls her everyday.
6»When a woman truly love a man, she will visit you all the time, calls you, helps you,care and give you attention more than she gives herself and family.
7»When a woman loves a man, she will do what she vows not to do in this life. She will do it for you and for love
8»When a woman truly love a man, she will turn down other men who approaches her
9»When a woman truly love you, she gonna be romantic, care for you, respect you, encourage and supporting your dreams in this life, she will do anything possible to assist you achieve it.
10» When a woman truly loves you, she will surely want the best for you, she will not cheat on you or hurt you, she will let everybody know that she loves you, she will be
proud of you bro,she want nothing but marriage.
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN:
DO SUCH WOMEN STILL EXIST???
YES OR NO. Please be honest cos I need one. Hahahaha
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Tuesday, 11 July 2017

Must Read : Ladies, Please grow up

Ladies, Please grow up
Ladies, Please grow up

He won’t use condoms, You use pills.
why? Because he wants it natural?
(think of ovarian cancer and infertility).
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He gets you pregnant, You have aborted like 5 times.. why? Because he is not
ready! GROW UP!
.
He is tired of natural place for copulation,
He moves to your ass Saying 'its tighter'
Then u begin to leak n smell..
why? Because u want to please and not
loose him.. GROW UP!
.
You have been wearing his engagement
ring for close to 4yrs,
He is not wearing any.. why?
Because he has promised you marriage.
GROW UP!
.
MY SISTER; He wants a Blow job Yet he won’t give you head.. why? Cos he feels u are not so clean “there”. GROW UP MY SISTER!
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You dress half naked thinking you look sexy and Hot, He isn’t complaining But he has more cloths on. Don’t be surprised when he takes a more decent girl home.
GROW UP LADY!
.
A guy dumps you, you wanna pay him back and all you could do is to sleep with his friend? and you think this is pay back? hahaha!
MY SISTER GROW UP!
.
You think getting pregnant for him will make him marry you? GROW UP GIRL!
You become a single mama with No Job,
No means of feeding your Baby and
yourself so, You leave junior with Grandma and you go back to the Hustling field, then you begin to say, "MEN Are Wicked!"
Whose fault?
.
Please ladies, be wise!
You know you deserve better than this.
Don't always be at the loosing end!!!
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Thursday, 6 July 2017

Begging for affection is one mistake you must never make

Begging for affection is one mistake you must never make
                       Begging for affection is one mistake you must never make
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The greatest mistake one can make is to beg for love. Love is our inalienable right and can't be taken nor stolen. Love comes to us naturally without begging, so relax, there's no need to rush.
The only reason why you don't feel loved is because you are not yet ready, or because you haven't found the right person yet.
Everybody has someone destined for him/her, rushing or begging for someone's love only drives you into the arms of a wrong person.
Patience is the key, the key to joy, success and happiness. Learn to wait for love and not beg for love.
If anyone expects you to beg for their love, walkout cause they're not worth it.
True love come at a right time and it doesn't come alone, it comes with Joy, Fulfillment, Happiness, Peace and blessing.
Please be patient. Never you give up on love nor beg for love

© Mfon Elisha's Blog 2017

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Wednesday, 5 July 2017

Why date for sex when you could date for love ?

Why date for sex when you could date for love ?
Why date for sex when you could date for love ?

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The rate at which people date for sex nowadays has become alarming. Yes! Sex can be satisfactory but love is fulfilling. Why takeaway someone's pride when you could help in building it?
Most people might say "Love is not my thing" simply because they have made several wrong moves without realizing it, or maybe, they have been rejected a couple of times and they think it's all over for them. But no, there is more to a relationship that's built on the solid foundation of love. Sex satisfies your want but love carefully attains to your needs. Love is the root to inalienable joy which is enjoyed by all it's victims , while sex is just they leave that's ready to fall when the wind blows. We are special, unique in our own way and blessed.
Sex must not be the starting point of a relationship, it can come later

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Monday, 3 July 2017

After heartbreak, what next ?

After heartbreak, what next ?
After heartbreak, what next ?

After heartbreak, what next ?

Love can meet rejection. Love can meet humiliation. Love can meet frustration. Love can be unreciprocated. But when our rejection, humiliation, and frustration, finally turns to shame, we feel so stupid, and often resort to depression.
Shame is a monster. It does not think. And when it finally thinks, it thinks UPSIDE DOWN.
Any heartbreak that induced shame unchallenged and unrestrained often leads to depression.
After heartbreak, what next? It ranges from anger, to frustration, to loneliness and may get to shame and depression. But can I show you hope after a heartbreak ?
Let me give you a practical example from a book I read, EYE OF NOWHERE
"Your younger sister is getting married, and you can't even keep a steady relationship. Wasn't it the same things I taught you that I also taught her? So why can't you get a good husband?"
Mum's nagging was beginning to grow on me. My recent breakup was now the new song in the house and I was the subject of every prayer point. I struggled with shame, even though it was no fault of mine. Mine is a culture that forces a woman to look for a husband, only to be termed cheap and desperate.
But I held on to hope. My mentor, Tekena Ikoko, had taught me that at night seasons, our values will be tested but in the morning seasons, they will attract their kind. Two years later, morning came. As I danced up the altar to take my marital vows, I took a quick look at the excited faces of the guests. Indeed, success has many friends and failure is an orphan.
Whenever shame is replaced with hope, hearts are healed.
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Marriage is not a day journey

Marriage is not a day journey
                                                  Marriage is not a day journey

Marriage is not the journey of a day, a week, a month or a year; it's a lifelong journey. The duration of your relationship depends on you, who's in your relationship, whom you're married to and what brought you together.
Expression of love languages is for the married. On no account should singles be communicating their love languages in their relationship otherwise it might end up leading them to what they do not expect.
It's better to save sex for the right time and at the right place - wedding night so that you won't have had a terrible experience about it. A terrible first time sexual experience leads to a fearful wedding night experience, and an addicted sexual life leads to a comparative sexual analysis of your past encounter with the present. This will lead to infidelity and sexual dissatisfaction.
No marriage or relationship that is led by and anchored by God will fall in the midst of crisis when either of the parties involved hold onto their anchor. Is your relationship or marriage full of God's presence?
Many do not know the truth about love this is why they ended up becoming victims of the evils people for love. Love won't make you pregnant before marriage. No, it won't make you sin against God to please lustful passion.
Your understanding about life determines how you'd fare in it. The difference between the rich and the poor, those who enjoy or endure their relationship is a function of their understanding. Understanding determines who you marry and your perspectives about marriage. It even determines how rich or poor you'd be with the kind of information you have. Above all your gettings, get understanding!
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Wednesday, 28 June 2017

Gaslighting : 8 signs your partner is trying to drive you crazy

gaslighting : 8 signs your partner is trying to drive you crazy
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Does your partner sometimes make you question if what you’re feeling and thinking is real? They might be gaslighting you.

So what exactly is gaslighting?

According to Healthy Place, it’s a common technique emotional abusers use to manipulate their victims into believing that their own memories, thoughts and feelings are a lie.

The idea is to make you doubt everything you’ve believed about yourself and your life. Sometimes it can be aggressive and invasive, but sometimes it can be so subtle that you don’t even notice it.

The term gaslighting comes from a 1944 film called Gaslight where a husband slowly manipulates his wife into thinking she is going insane.


It can happen to anyone. No one is immune to abuse, especially at the hands of someone you love dearly. It starts slowly with a few comments every now and then until they’ve worn you down so much that it becomes your way of life.

What are the signs of gaslighting?

Withholding information or emotions

If you’ve heard the words “I’m not listening to that nonsense again” or they accuse you of trying to confuse them by what you’re saying, this is called withholding. It’s the deliberate feigning of a lack of understanding, refusing to listen to your concerns and declining to share their emotions with you.

They tell you blatant lies

They tell you something you know is a big lie, but they say it with a straight face. This is done in order to make you question yourself and what they’re saying to you. It’s a tactic that is deliberately meant to make you unsure of yourself.

Denying that they said something

Even if you have proof that it happened that way or that they said it, the abuser denies it and will tell you that you’re recollection of events is incorrect.  This not only makes you question your own memory and perceptions of events, but it’s a derailing tactic designed to make you forget about the actual issue being discussed.

They change the conversation to suit them

This is very similar to the previous point, but here they guide the conversation in a way that deflects attention from the issue. You’ll be talking about something and your partner will deliberately change the conversation so that they can question your thoughts and control what is being said.

“Where did you get that idea from?”, “stop moaning”, “you’re just saying that to hurt me” are all the kinds of things that will be said in order to avoid the fact that your partner is actually being emotionally abusive.

They use the things that are important to you to knock you down

Whether it’s your job, your family or your ambitions, they attack what’s important to you because they know it’ll hurt the most. They’ll insult your work, or use an old argument you had with your family as ammunition against you in an argument you’re having with them. They focus on all your negative traits and tell you why they make you less worthy.

They make you doubt yourself all the time

You find yourself questioning the way you remember things, how you do things and why. You wonder if your decisions are valid and if you’re making the best choices especially when it concerns your partner. You begin to think that you need to put their needs above your own because otherwise you’re being selfish even if the decision you need to make could lead to a positive outcome for you and those nearest to you.

You start to think maybe you’re oversensitive even if you’re being completely reasonable. Or you’ll tell yourself you’re just being jealous for no reason even if there’s obvious reason to be.

You find yourself apologising for everything

Even when it’s not remotely your fault, you say you’re sorry. You constantly feel the need to apologise even when you’ve done nothing wrong. Your confidence has been broken down to the point where, even if you have an argument with your partner where they started it, you find yourself saying sorry because you feel like you started it.

They project their issues onto you

They cheat and they lie, or could have something as serious as a drug or mental health problem but they’re constantly accusing you of being guilty of the very things that they are doing. They tell you you’re crazy, or that you’re lying about something to distract you from what they’re actually doing.

This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to information and signs of gaslighting. If you think you or someone you know could be in this situation, then getting ample information is crucial.

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Monday, 26 June 2017

Make your relationship work

Wanting to be in a relationship could be exciting but the actual work is in having to remain faithful in it.
Wanting to be in a relationship could be exciting but the actual work is in having to remain faithful in it.
ALWAYS STRIVE TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK AND NOT PLAN TO ENTER INTO NEW ONES.

She didn't force herself on you in the first place, why then do you have to punish her with your scarcity? Why do you avoid her now that another person is becoming appealing to you? What do you gain from the tears of an innocent lady who trusted you with her heart? You are now acting "over-busy".
"Come back and continue what you started o", Someone should call that guy for me.
You thought growing "bear-bear" was the same thing as competence. When you were busy promising her heaven and earth, you didn't remember that you'll be expected to prove it. Now that she has finally decided to shut the gates and love only you, you have started acting drama.
Wanting to be in a relationship could be exciting but the actual work is in having to remain faithful in it. This doesn't just happen; it must be intentionally planned and I am telling you, it is achievable.
The love experience can be renewed and made sweeter every moment. Celebrate your relationship and it will appreciate. Choose to complain everyday and you'll water it down. Don't promise her marriage yet moving your eyes around the whole town seeking whom to devour. You can't even love one person well and you are digging your early grave looking for another to add.
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  2. Battles Every Singles Must Fight and Win in their Relationship
  3. The Mystery of Love And Time
  4. Things love doesn't do

Focus that attention and energy on the lady God has given you for a wife. There is nothing outside. I once admired a lady from a distance for her prestigious strength of physical beauty. She was an angel until the day I heard her react foolishly to a misunderstanding. I covered my heart and gave a testimony that it didn't go beyond distant admiration. You never know who the real angel is until you polish the lady you are almost trading for nothing; that one that stood by you when you had nothing but certificates; that one that inconvenienced her comfort just to make sure that you don't die before your time; that one that saw a future in you that others were too blind to see. That one that listened to you when you had no voice. That one that endured your past because she believed in your tomorrow.
She probably couldn't speak English when you were receiving all her care but now, you've ridiculed her, you now need a classy babe. Stop all this nonsense guy! Can't you see the number of broken hearts that are credited to your account? What do you want with your life? Is King Solomon your mentor on relationship?
By way of conclusion, God gives good gifts; it is your duty to polish your spouse to your taste. Whether you use groundnut oil, it's up to you; keep her shinning, smiling and enviable-that is what matters.
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Saturday, 24 June 2017

Battles Every Singles Must Fight and Win in their Relationship

Battles Every Singles Must Fight and Win in their Relationship
As singles, are you aware of the battles you must fight?
Battles Every Singles Must Fight and Win in their Relationship
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King David in the Bible fought all his battles and won them. He became a champion at a very tender age for defeating the champion of the Philistine, Goliath. But unfortunately, he was defeated in a battle he couldn’t win and this brought calamity into his life. Do you know your battles?
Battles are fights or contest which a person engage in, often with an enemy or forces that would impede one’s survival in life. Most of these battles are not physical nor spiritual but they are battles which you must fight against flesh and blood.
David could win physical battles but he lost completely to the battle of covetousness, adultery and murder. As singles, are you aware of the battles you must fight? Sin is one enemy you must fight and overcome. That you’re a Christian doesn’t make you a winner. Infact some Christians are ignorant of their battles that’s why they become victims.
You may escape some battles as singles but if you fail to conquer them totally, you’ll be defeated later in the future. What are these battles?
1. Lust
“When lust is conceived, it brings for sin and sin when it is finished, it leads to death”.
There are many things that singles often lust after. Lust is desiring a thing just for its immediate satisfaction or pleasure. Some single men would lust after fair complexion ladies or one particular thing in a woman. Even if they marry another woman who have that thing or don’t have, lust will still carry them away.
Ladies likewise could also lust after men who are talented or carried away by certain things such as how caring, hospitable or by mundane things.
If you fail to conquer your battle against whatever you lust after, that thing will destroy you when you’re married.
2. Peer pressure
We all have friends and they’re able to exert their influence over our lives. However, it is not of how many friends you have but of which influence they have over your life.
Have you won the battle over negative influence from peers? Some people have been influenced into alcoholism, smoking, premarital sex and other destructive habits. You’ll have problems now and in the future if you’re still vulnerable to peer pressure and it’s influence.
3. Indecision
As unstable as many waters, so it is for a man who lacked the power to make decisions for himself in life.
Many singles had followed wrong decisions in life for their inability to make right and firm decisions for themselves. Some had indecisively marry someone they do not want to, some couldn’t make right decisions concerning their career or to get out of a wrong relationship.
If you find it difficult to take stand for yourself, you’ll stand for nothing in life. Know what you want and stick to it. When you lack a strong self will and discretion in making right decisions, it will affect your life and future.
4. Time management
God has equally given both the poor and the rich the same measure of time. What you do with your time would define the state of your life.
How able are you to manage your time? If you still find it difficult to manage how to use your time effectively, you will never make progress in life. Lots of singles are faced with a decision of choosing between pleasure and productive task. Some cannot say no to pleasure and embrace the positive use of their time on something that would add value to their life.
Chatting on social networking sites, surfing the Internet, spending hours watching movies or TV program is a sheer waste of time when something would have been benefited. Are you able to utilize your time or pleasure has mastered you?
5. Priority
There are two categories of people in life: those who have priority and those who don’t have. Some people’s priority is to enjoy life to the fullest while some is to make impact in life.
Have you won the battle over making what matters in life to be your priority? You cannot win the battle over failure if you do not live a purpose driven life. No matter how much of money you make or influence you have, if you do not live the life God wanted you to live, you’re a failure.
Fight the battle to know what purpose you’re here to fulfill otherwise you’ll leave the world without making any significant impact.
Importantly, the battle every singles must fight and win is a battle over sin, flesh and worldly influence. No matter the height you go in life, if you don’t win these battles, your success story in life will have a stigma.

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