As I write this post, guess what is in my mind: "The attitude of Children towards things". I'll just point to a few so that you can have a firm grip of where I am coming from: (1) To a child, what is new today becomes old the moment another better one shows up. He can abandon what he has to chase after whatever now catches his fancy. To a child, nothing is permanently for keeps. (2) Children know how to cry for things but they don't know how to keep/preserve/ maintain things when they eventually get them. You can tell by the number of broken toys around them. You can tell by the number of fanciful clothes that they end up soiling in ignorance. (3) Valuable treasures are not for children. Before your very eyes they can reduce golden treasures to meaningless items. Their goal is mainly to have fun with everything, dump them and then, cry for new ones. (4) To a child, nothing is good again when soiled. He rather wants a clean one but can't keep it clean. It takes the presence of an adult to clean up what a child has made a mess of and to restore value to what a child devalues. I know this is already ministering volumes to your relationship needs. Well, I can now talk to you. Many months ago, God dropped a striking word in my spirit as I walked down the street to catch a lift for church service in a latest trouser and Italian shoes I got two months earlier but reserved for a special day. He said: "it can only be a new shoes once...." Did someone get that? I love this second part: "... but it can be renewed everyday". I'll tell you what that means later. That's obviously what a child cannot see. He doesn't see renewal. He wants a new thing every time he is no longer comfortable with what he has. Could this be the picture of someone's love life today? Can you remember when you first tagged her "the angel of your life"? What has happened today? Could it be that love got cold for a day? It can only be a new experience once but it can be renewed everyday. That's the excitement of a growing relationship- "renewed experiences". If you are not ready to invest into showing and sustaining love with anybody, don't wake it up! I learnt this the hard way but all the same, thanks be to God. Bro, sometimes, you don't need a new relationship but a renewed relationship. You don't need a new commitment with a new person but a renewed commitment with the one God has sent your way. ( At this point, permit me to define who I'm talking to by this write up. I'm referring to that young believer who has found true love by divine leading. And if you are reading this post, still donating your body to immorality in the name of a relationship, please walk out of that destiny cage with boldness. Turn to the cross of Christ in repentance) I can now continue: The test of experience is not in how many relationships you've been into in life. It doesn't make you a better man than you are. We should question the spirituality of any man that makes it a duty point to walk in and out of a relationship as he likes. That's not maturity. Maturity here is actually proven by the weight of positive investment you can put into loving one person to get love glowing. Falling in love is not always the difficult part but deciding to stay in love. Even Jss 3 boys now fall in love. I just laugh whenever I see them near the mango tree. This is an abnormality. Guys, don't threaten to dump any girl that has laboured so much to keep your relationship beautiful simply because a Delilah somewhere is smiling at you. Who told you Delilah's were marriage products? Value what you have. She is the same sweet lady of yesterday, Polish it out in her. She is more valuable than Delilah. Delilah can't stand by you when your eyes are gone but she can. Wake up the man in you! The fan is in your hand. Don't wait till love gets cold. Fan the flames everyday. Keep it burning. Get creative guys! Value communication. If there is nothing new to gist about, recycle old moments and discussions in new ways. Just make sure that you are increasing the fire. If love dies, the two adults were not talking. They were not communicating. Love dies when the fire of communication goes down. You can't take your eyes off things of value and still enjoy the value it gives. No lady outside is better than your wife or the future spouse God has just brought your way. Give her that exalted benefit/honour and build out the queen in her. Find true love. Maintain true love at your level. Send healthy constant communication down the roots. You don't need another relationship. Make this one in your hands an adventure. Yes, she likes it hot and sweeter.
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