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| Love me but Don't frustrate me! |
Love me but Don't frustrate me!
Again, this issue has resonated inevitable concerns within me—the fact that most guys can go out of their way to threaten a lady to marry them or to continue in a relationship that they themselves are fed up with but can't let go for the fear that they might still want to perch on it occasionally and get cheap gains. In my little experience, I have heard nasty words like: "Girl, you have to marry me or I won't let you marry another man" Some guys indirectly assume that they are the only ones that hold the key to a lady's marital destiny and fulfilment. That is why they could continue to use her, frustrate her and threaten her than let her go and find true love elsewhere or make progress with her life. Again, if that is your ministry, your judgement is still doing "press up". Most guys hang around ladies too long without making their intentions clear to them. They hide under this to amplify their lusts afterall, they are not accountable to anything. A brain-locked lady would sit still, enjoying the empty brainwashing, enduring the abuses because she has no integrity to protect nor a lively purpose in life to glue to. A visionary lady on the other hand can't contain such abnormality for long. She'll just have to let go of stagnant waters and respond to another guy with a greenlight. Stagnant waters stink! Her purpose in life is too precious to her for one dragon somewhere to tie her down to a still. As she gallantly takes a bow out of such emotional bondage, that's when you hear the guy lamenting: " why would she hurt me? We've been together for 3 years now". "As what", if I may ask? Are you Pharaoh? You can't heat up a system and expect to relax under it. What do you want to make out of a relationship when your magnifying glass only picks faults and notices her negative tendencies. If she is no longer good for you, she is another person's best. Let her go! Stop threatening her now that another person is indicating an interest in polishing her rough edges. Only God can help a generation as ours where "1000 qualities a potential wife must possess" has replaced the place of daily beholding of God's word in order to daily crush off ugly habits as they unfold and continue happily in your relationship. The former preaches perfection but the latter depends on the help of God through patience. In reality, there is no perfect woman/ man. Why then would you expect a perfect wife when you yourself can't be a perfect husband? Why pound on her weaknesses when yours is comfortably relaxing under an air-conditioner? Know ye not that whatever thou magnifyest appreciatest? (in King James version). If you want to frustrate weaknesses, magnify strengths and if you can't accept her with her weaknesses, don't even signal her that you exist, just let her go.
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