“To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven” – Holy Bible
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When it comes to choosing a partner for marriage, there are several seasons of one’s life which that can be achieved. There are people who feel the need of a partner is necessary at a certain age of their life, some due to societal influence they make their choice while others resort to their readiness for marriage as a factor for making this crucial decision.
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One thing about making important decisions in life such as choosing a partner for marriage is that if you employ the wrong method or you do not make the wise decision, you’ll live to regret it.
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There are only few marriages that the partners involved would wish to marry themselves again if there were to be a second world.
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To the singles reading this, there’s a season of your life that would determine the kind of marriage you’d have depending on whom you choose to journey with.
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Before I’d tell you the best season, here are some wrong seasons that people usually make the decision for a partner.
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1. Some choose during post-puberty years
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How can a boy or girl less than age twenty be thinking of knowing the right person? Is that what’s needful in their life?
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I don’t care if the society or some persons tell you it’s right. When you’re less than twenty years of age, all that should be your prime focus is not relationship but getting to know your purpose in life.
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If you won’t live a miserable life like some parent or older people, use your teenage years to discover your purpose, build your character, discover your talent and intimate yourself with God.
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If you’re burdened with the care of boyfriends or girlfriends at this age, you’ll make a wreck of your marital life and at the same time live with some terrible scar in life.
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2. Some decide in their early twenties
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That you’re twenty-somethin
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That you’re in your early or late twenties doesn’t mean marriage is the next if you don’t even know the essence of living in life. And even if it feels like you’re ready, how mature are you emotionally, spiritually, financially and mentally to handle the demands of the married life?
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It is not proper to be thinking of marriage at this when you’re still struggling with one habit or deficiency in your life.
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I know that you can’t be completely fitted for your partner perfectly but some imperfect aspect that would affect your relationship ought to be dealt with before looking for whom to marry.
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3. Some decide when the pressure is getting much
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There are many people who usually act under pressure when it comes to choosing whom to marry. That your biological clock seems to be ticking fast doesn’t mean you should hurriedly enter into marriage as some people do.
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If you allow the season of pressure to get you into marriage, it’ll affect your marital life because you’ll act under desperation.
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There’s nothing done under pressure or desperation that works well especially when it comes to the season of choosing a partner.
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However, the best season to choose whom to marry is the praying season of your life. It will sound weird to many but that’s the real deal for those who care.
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What has prayer got to do with choosing a marriage partner?
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The founder of a group on Facebook, Christian Spinsters And Bachelor’s Forum, Chiagozie Chidebewrote something insightful about making decisions on whom to marry. He puts it this way, “Never make a decision on whom to marry in the prayer-less season of your life, keep that decision for now and build back your prayer altar and keep the fire burning! Why?
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Anything you get without prayer, will destroy you, because in the place of prayer you may enter with a perception to get a job, a car, a house, a wife or husband and every needs man wants for himself.
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But in the place of prayer you catch God’s purpose for your life and then realize all that God will provide for you, which is for you to fulfill your purpose.
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Without this insight that comes in prayer, when your needs are met (when you get engaged or married), you will easily compromise and disconnect from God and fall away from the faith. This is one of Satan’s greatest attack on Christian singles”.
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Other benefits of prayer includes:
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It’ll help you to make the right decision if you do not lean on your own understanding.
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It’ll help you to know the person you want to marry if you ask God to reveal it to you (Jer. 33:3).
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It is only through prayer that you can get to know His perfect will for your life.
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Is your prayer altar dull, nonexistent or active? Tarry in the place of prayer to get direction from God on whom to marry.
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The prayer season of your life is the best time to make the right decision on whom to marry coupled with the fact that you are mature enough to handle the demands of marriage.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2015
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