Sex has been constantly lowering its standards with each passing decade. So much so that today’s take on sex out of wedlock is a simple ‘why not?’
Whether there’s anything wrong with it or not, everybody is doing it. Yes that includes your neighbour, your best friend and yup, your sister too.
Reasons are many. The first one’s pretty obvious. Then again, we have yet to discover a better stress-buster than sex. It even boosts the immune system better then apples. Not just that, sex is obviously the best way to burn calories. Better still it increases self-esteem and reduces chances of prostate cancer. That’s quite a handful, isn’t it?
Timing
With so many obvious benefits, should one really wait until after marriage? Maybe not. But waiting to meeting the right person will be totally worth it. Just like you don’t talk about sex on your first date, not having sex is also something that you don’t utter.
Your timing has to be perfect. Just hold the horses till you feel emotionally comfortable. As our very own Auntyji likes to say, “There is time and place for everything.”
Next level
Once the relationship stabilizes, feel free to broach the topic. It usually helps to be specific when it comes to starting the sex talk. Beating about the bush can get tricky at least when it comes to matters related to sex. Tell them how you enjoy spending time with them and want to take it to the next level. But mind you, it is important to give them enough time to process the information.
Don’t be shocked if your partner tries to talk you out of sex until after marriage. As hard as it might be to believe but there are still some people who want to save it until after they exchange the vows. Even though they did not give you any such signals in the beginning. For some it could be religious and for others it is a choice they make.
Beliefs
You should stand up for your belief and not succumb to the pressure unless you are very sure. Like it is unfair to force someone into having sex, it is equally unfair to persuade someone out of it.
It is better to find a partner who shares your belief rather than trying to base a relationship on someone else’s beliefs. As hard as it may sound, but some relationships are not meant to be. Just like some taboos are not worth the hype.
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