The lack of knowledge has been the root cause of all relationship issues people face in life. Some people do not know what is right while some people does the right thing at the wrong time.
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And let me quickly add this: doing the wrong thing at the right time, is wrong and doing the right thing at the wrong time is nothing but wrong.
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Some ladies felt they know what is right, whereas it left them wounded and destroyed in life. And some guys who believe they’re smart, ended up to have endangered their life due to their gross act of stupidity.
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Now, the big question is this: how do you know what is right? A thing cannot be right and it would leave you with some daring consequences after doing it.
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You need to first determine the consequence of an action before you know if it’s right or wrong. And it’s only a fool that would learn from a mistake he could have avoided.
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It’ll be difficult for you to know if a thing is right when you depend on your feelings or opinions. How can you know if what you desire is a need or want when you don’t have the knowledge of its effect?
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For instance, what you need as singles is not sex before marriage but abstinence. Why? It will prevent you from exposing your life to terrible consequences. I know your body wants it but if you feel it’s right, you’ll end up regretting it.
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There are also some people who also believe a thing is right by holding onto the belief of the society. What is right cannot be known by people who lacked the knowledge of what is right.
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Imagine how demeaning and detrimental it would be when you indulge in premarital sex by using a contraceptive when the One who created sex tells you its wrong. Unfortunately, the society tells people to use condom for safe sex.
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Hear this, a thing is not right when the society tells you it’s right nor because you feel it’s proper to do. The knowledge of right or wrong only comes with your understanding of what God says concerning the issue.
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Whether you believe in Him or not, it doesn’t change the fact that anyone that violates His law wouldn’t go unpunished. It’ll only do your life good when you live with His principles regarding what is right or wrong.
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Do you know what’s right when it comes to the expression of love?
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As singles, if you feel it’s right to express love with the likes of kissing, petting, caressing and fondling of each other’s body; you’ll be exposed to the ills such activities would bring.
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Love isn’t expressed with such action as singles. It’s only meant for the married. As youth, you have to flee youthful lust otherwise you’ll face its consequence (1 Cor. 6:18). It’s not right to express love through immoral acts no matter how good you prove it to be.
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Do you know what’s right when it comes to the issue of sex?
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It’s normal to have sexual feelings or desire to have it because you have hormones that triggers the mood in you. But what is right is not the immediate gratification of it when you’re not ready to face the outcome of it or you’ll regret ever doing it.
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What is right, which you might likely not agree with me or conform to societal opinions is to learn how to contain the desire until when its appropriate to unleash it – and that’s in marriage.
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Believing the likes of kissing, petting, caressing, bear hugging, masturbation, pornography, fondling each other’s body, premarital sex or erotic conversations are the best way of curbing your sexual desire is just to live in a fool’s paradise.
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They’ll cause more harm than the ‘benefit’ that is derived.
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Do you know what’s right for you when choosing a friend?
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Many believe that friends with benefits, having boyfriends or girlfriends when immoralities are tolerated are the kinds of friends that is right for them.
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A friend that’s right for you is the one that would make your life better and not worse. You need a friend that would sharpen your life – multiply you and reduce your woes.
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But many are keeping friends that would subtract their life and increase their woes. Such friends are bad influence and you have to do away with them.
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However, to do what is right, you must know what is right and be determined to doing it regardless of the things (feelings, peer pressure, societal traditions) that will hold you back.
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If you don’t know what is right and do it, you’ll mess up your life and regret it afterwards. Know what God says relating to sex, relationship and love. He alone knows what’s right for us as humans and not your feelings or societal opinions.
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Remember, it’s not right if it puts your life in a mess.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2015
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