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Showing posts with label Women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Women. Show all posts

Friday, 28 July 2017

Dear Broke Women : A Letter From A Mother To Women Who Want To Depend On Men

 Dear Broke Women : A Letter From A Mother To Women Who Want To Depend On Men
 Dear Broke Women : A Letter From A Mother To Women Who Want To Depend On Men.

Know this
I did not suffer labour pains for 4 days to deliver my son so that he could alleviate you from poverty that is the role of your parents
I did not carry my son for 9 months, struggle through his formative years
Struggle with his father to send him and his siblings to school so that you could demand he buys you expensive gifts. We did not Experience the anxieties of watching him head buried in his books studying for exams. Watched his father offer him words of encouragement as he lay awake wondering if he had been accepted into the University of his choice. His father and I sat there one of the proudest moments we experienced as parents watching him graduate.
Life was never meant to be easy getting a job was the biggest mountain he had to climb.
Do you know how many rejections from employers he received?
Do you know how it broke our hearts when we struggled to find words to keep his spirits up?

I remember the day I received that phone call he had finally made it he both his feet were now firmly on the ground. Then he met you a stunning goddess but to my dismay a woman who did not tire of talking about herself.
A woman who was empty inside a women who responded with " If you say so" when we spoke about current affairs. I realise now in hindsight your area of expertise was IG , FB & celebrity gossip.


A woman who laughed when I asked her what she hopped to do. You pointed at my son and said "he will take care of me now!"
Who will take care of you? My son ?
I don't think so. You are not his responsibility. He is not in servitude to pander to your whims.

He was distressed when he came to visit us he told me you wanted better accommodation you were tired of sharing, and you also wanted a car. How could he afford all this when he had just stared working?
You stopped talking to him it was heartbreaking to see his distress.
My son is not the IMF that bails struggling entities like you out of complete financial meltdown. He is trying to make you happy but happiness to you equates to money.
Dear broke women my son is not your ATM.

He owes you nothing, he is not obligated to do
Anything for you. He will do something because he wants to not because he has to or because you give him an ultimatum.

Dear broke women he owes no loyalty to you because all you seek is an opportunity. He is your salvation out of a situation. You don't love my son you love money.

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Thursday, 20 July 2017

10 Relationship Commandments for Women

10 Relationship Commandments for Women
10 Relationship Commandments for Women

1. Don't be in a hurry to move out
of your parents house.
2. Don't wait for a man before you
start living. You can live a fulfilled
life as a single woman.
3. Stay away from alcohol. It has
killed others and you are not
special.
4. Don't entertain a wrong
number call, especially at night. Its
not the right way to find a lover.
5. Develop a healthy eating habit.
Always take breakfast and avoid
sweets.
6. Dress well: Impression count.
People will judge you by the way
you dress even before they talk to
you.
7. Don't use sex as proof of love.
Sex is no proof of love, he'll leave
you after the sex.
8. Don't marry for the money, else
you'll become one of his
possessions.
9. Add value to yourself- get a
career. Don't be fooled that a man
will solve all your problems.
10. Beauty is not everything. If it is
all you have, you'll lose your place
to someone beautiful, better more
matured and competent than
you..
AGREE OR DISAGREE?

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Tuesday, 18 July 2017

Self discovery : My attitude is based on how you treat me


My attitude is based on how you treat me.
My attitude is based on how you treat me.
You may say am timid because of how I laugh and look,
You may say am colorful because of how I overlook the multicolors on my dress and makeups,
You may say I have a bad lifestyle because of how I carry and see myself,
You may say am this, am that, but in the midst of all that you think of me, Success is my only option.
I take happiness as my priority and success as my lifestyle.
You may be thankful that you're not like me, but you don't know how blessed I am to know that am not like you, because my weakness is my strength and only reason for success.
People make derision of me, they even break my heart without any form of petty, am okey by that because pain makes me stronger, fear makes me braver and heartbreaks makes me wiser.
You can say all you want about me and I won't care, because in this my little journey to greatness, am willing to be mocked, hated and misunderstood.
Just incase you didn't know, I was born to make mistakes and not to fake perfection.
I am a woman who is big enough to admit my mistakes, smart enough to profit from them and strong enough to correct them.

Anyway, I rest my case because in the next five (5) years, none of this shit will matter. So, you can go ahead and broadcast my failure while whispering my success.
Make a choice today, either walk with me or work for me. The choice is yours, choose wisely.

#Concept
My attitude is based on how you treat me.

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Thursday, 15 June 2017

Things Love Doesn't Do

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Things Love Doesn't Do
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Things Love Doesn't Do
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It sometimes sound somehow to hear those who claim to be in love, yet they're violating what love is all about. Isn't that ignorance or foolishness? 
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Love is not a feeling, I have always voiced out this in my articles. Feelings will change overtime and cannot stand the test of time. Love is a decision, it's a responsibility and it requires an unflinching commitment. If you're not ready for all of these, please don't go into a love relationship. 
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More so, aside these, you need to love the right person otherwise your expression of love to the wrong person will ruin your life just as a permanent marker leaves a terrible stain on a white board. 
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It is often said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. If you don't know what love doesn't do you will do the wrong thing believing that you're in love.
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First, LOVE IS NOT SELFISH. Can you read that again? Now read slowly. Anyone that wants you to please him or her always without doing anything to seek your own welfare doesn't love you.
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Lust is selfish, self-centered, domineering and everything you can call it. In fact, it is self-seeking. You must obey, respect, care, please, give and do everything for it without reciprocating. If he wants you to please him always without doing same for you and you're ready to loose your life to please him, my dear, you're in lust. And the end product of lust is destruction!
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When Jesus told His disciples to follow Him, do you think He was lording over His divinity over them? No! He went to the extent of washing their feet. He performed miracles for them. He gave them power. They were following Him like jobless men but He made fishers of men out of them. 
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If he or she is telling you to do this or that for him or her, ask yourself a sincere question, "What has he or she done for me to better my life"?
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Next is that love doesn't celebrate INIQUITY. You might not be familiar with that term but let me help you. Iniquity is a deviation from what is right. It is a form of wickedness and injustice done to a person. 
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The definition of what is right is not in your philosophy or psychology text book, it is the book of law (Bible). Great thinkers can tell you what they know about love but they never can practice love the way it ought to be practiced. 
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God has everything you need to know about love and it was well written in His instruction manual. But if you're to lazy to find what love is, you'll be vulnerable to the evils people do for lust.
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Love is not blind. It is not wicked. It costs a thing. Love is not sex. The expression of love is not with kissing, petting, caressing each other's sexual organs, erotic conversations and the likes. Those expressions are for the married. It is not right for singles to indulge in such act. 
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When you do any of these, you have violated the divine order and whoever breaks the edge, the serpent shall bite. Is that man or lady luring you to do what's not divinely right or encouraging you to do what is wrong? Love doesn't rejoice in iniquity. 
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LOVE DOESN'T FAIL. As long as you do what you're supposed to do, love never fails. Love endures forever! King Solomon in his wit wrote that many waters cannot quench love but lust die immediately it has fulfill its desire. 
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Ladies, when you give some men what they want, which is majorly sex, you'll begin to notice difference in their character. He might have been calling you three times in a day but after getting what he wants, he'll completely ignore you like a prison warder does to a prisoner. 
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So my candid advice to you is this, if you want a love that doesn't fail, don't induce it; let it come naturally. Don't force it, let it come softly; don't destroy your life to prove it, let time prove it.
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Finally, LOVE IS NOT PROUD. How do I even start? It is not love when he tells you he's doing you a favor by marrying you or becoming engaged to you. It is not love when she tells you you're not in her league. Love is not proud, but humble and accommodating. 
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Love is humble enough to submit to her head and a loving man doesn't lord his authority over his neck. 
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If the love you're experiencing in that relationship is selfish, tolerates iniquity, no longer exist, and it's proud; then your relationship is not a loving one but a lustful one. Or rather, you're in love with the wrong person. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi

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Saturday, 3 June 2017

How to become a woman of worth


Rome, they say was not built in a day. It took a great while for the city of Rome to be established. Becoming a woman of worth is not attained by sudden flight, you must prune yourself into becoming one. However, the journey of a thousand miles start with a step and with consistency, it is accomplished. 
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Now that you're not married, what kind of woman would you become in marriage? It's either marriage brings out the best in you or it reveals your worse. 
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Who's a woman of worth? A woman of worth is a celebrity but not all female celebrities are worthy of emulation. She's a celebrity because her price is far above rubies. She didn't make her way into greatness through using what her mama gave her, through discipline, determination, courage and purpose; she became known. 
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A woman of worth in a family is far better than dozens of women whose price can be named. She's closely related to the woman described in Proverbs 31 because they share same qualities. 
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Dear Christian sisters, never dare to become like your mummy G.O, mama or one 'yeyebrity' or the other. Study the characteristics of a virtuous woman and let her traits manifest in you. 
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Who's a woman of worth? 
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A woman's worth is defined by so many factors. Although her price is far above rubies, I'll try and highlight important factors that defines who she is. 
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First, her INNER BEAUTY. That is, the quality of her character and how indispensable she is. When your physical appearance cannot be seen, what comes to mind when your name is heard? Let your character be a light that would illuminate lives rather than your outward appearance that would attract morons. 
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The world has made lots of women misplace their priorities. They have ignored all that matters and are now pursing external beauty. When you face begins to grow wrinkles and all those mascara doesn't look good anymore, what draws people to you or send people away is your character. 
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How do you behave when the chips are down? How do you treat people around you: the rich, the poor, the rude, the polite, the wicked or those who are nice? May I suggest that you work on your inner beauty and outward beauty in ratio 70:30. 
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Remember, it is better to dwell in the corner of a house than to live with a nagging woman. 
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Second, her worth is defined by her TEMPERAMENT. I'm not here to teach about the four types of temperaments. How do you handle your emotions under certain circumstances? Is she gentle or harsh, loving or cruel? Work on your emotional life. A good temperament is better than adorning yourself with the most expensive ornament when you have temperament issues. You don't need to shout when you're angry or talk when you're tensed, nor display anger at every provocation. Be a woman of worth who has a meek and quiet spirit. 
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Third, her worth is defined by her SENSE OF IDENTITY, knowing who she is (purpose) as a woman. When a woman knows who she is, she won't abuse herself with men or worldly passion. She won't be a victim of identity crisis. A woman who doesn't know her purpose in life will be used to fulfill the purpose of the wrong man. 
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Your purpose is to be a help meet, not to all men but to your husband. When a woman fails to recognize her identity, she'll believe that she needs a man to validate her love and worth. See, it's a man that needs you to complement his life. 
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Unfortunately, many ladies do not know who they are this is why they're victims of premarital sex, extramarital affairs, sexual immoralities, abortion, unprepared motherhood, unwanted pregnancy and the likes. When you lack the understanding of your sense of identity, lots of men out there will use you for what you're not. 
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Fourth, her worth is defined by her ABILITY TO NURTURE SEEDS (children, resources, husband) into greatness. It's usually said that when you give a woman a sperm, she'll make a baby out of it; give her a house, she'll make it a home; give her money, she'll maximize it and so on. 
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A woman who knows her worth won't be a spendthrift, extravagant or lavish her fortune on the unnecessary things of life. Why waste your money on frivolities when you can use it wisely? It doesn't matter if it's your hard earned money, of what good is buying the most expensive this or that when hundreds of children around you are without shoes, food, clothes or out of school? 
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How are you able to nurture your siblings or children around you in becoming better than what they use to be? Develop love, compassion, persistence and determination in transforming lives around you. 
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My dear sister, are you industrious or indolent, prudent or indiscreet? 
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Fifth, her worth is defined by her PASSION FOR GOD. What are you passionate about? Many ladies are so passionate about the things that lacks eternal substance. They run after modeling, entertainment, fashion craze, celebrity, men of caliber and the pleasures of life. 
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I don't cherish women whose pursuit is on mundane things, but I'm wowed when I see women who are sold out to God. Women who prays and heavens gives a listening ear because their voice commands God's attention. Women who speaks and have something worthwhile to say and they say it kindly. 
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Your passion for God as a woman is the primary factor that determines your worth. She has an undying passion for God and it's not affected by marriage or child birth. Are you this kind of woman? 
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Becoming this kind of woman is not a fairy tale, it is possible if you want to do so today. Take each factors at a time till it becomes part of you. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017
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